Tumblr account of artist Shinga (Amanda Bussell), of Head Trip!

 

The more I see stuff like this the more annoyed I get. Yes you’re SUCH a “nerd” because you prefer a quieter activity than all of those partying non-nerds. Good for you.
And even though this picture doesn’t outright imply “I’m better than the non-partiers”, it certainly carries that tone. And it’s an attitude I’m seeing everywhere. No, people who enjoy socializing and partying are not more “shallow”. Nerds can be extroverted. Geeks can party. Then (this is going to BLOW YOUR MIND, hang on)… THOSE SAME PEOPLE CAN COME HOME FROM A PARTY AND READ A DAMN BOOK. 

You’re not “omg so unique and special and nerdy and deep" because you don’t like crowds. That’s seriously what this boils down to. Along the same notes, you’re not any better for preferring tea over a beer, you’re not smarter if you like books but don’t own a TV, you’re not deeper if you spend every Friday night at home. People can do and enjoy ALL OF THESE THINGS, or maybe they just like partying only - who the hell cares? You’re not automatically better than them. Enjoy your tea and books all you want, but you don’t need to turn your nose up at people who go out every Friday and enjoy a loud club with their friends. Stop that.

The more I see stuff like this the more annoyed I get. Yes you’re SUCH a “nerd” because you prefer a quieter activity than all of those partying non-nerds. Good for you.

And even though this picture doesn’t outright imply “I’m better than the non-partiers”, it certainly carries that tone. And it’s an attitude I’m seeing everywhere. No, people who enjoy socializing and partying are not more “shallow”. Nerds can be extroverted. Geeks can party. Then (this is going to BLOW YOUR MIND, hang on)… THOSE SAME PEOPLE CAN COME HOME FROM A PARTY AND READ A DAMN BOOK.

You’re not “omg so unique and special and nerdy and deep" because you don’t like crowds. That’s seriously what this boils down to. Along the same notes, you’re not any better for preferring tea over a beer, you’re not smarter if you like books but don’t own a TV, you’re not deeper if you spend every Friday night at home. People can do and enjoy ALL OF THESE THINGS, or maybe they just like partying only - who the hell cares? You’re not automatically better than them. Enjoy your tea and books all you want, but you don’t need to turn your nose up at people who go out every Friday and enjoy a loud club with their friends. Stop that.

securebondage:

queen-lucia:

daysofdecadence:

healthybdsm:

In the BDSM community it may be hard to tell where the line between kinky consensual play and abuse is crossed. Let this be a rule of thumb: trust your intuition. If you feel something is wrong, IT PROBABLY IS. If you feel you are being mistreated, SAY SOMETHING.

-Pepper

(This is a photoset; click the title, then the arrows on each photo!)

i have experienced every single one of these listed under “Abuser” All by the same person a few years back. It was hell and will tear one down completely. It took me a long time to heal and get past it. i was extremely close to giving up on exploring D/s altogether and had to take a long break. PLEASE if you experience any of these things, speak up, find someone to talk to. The Abuser will try to make you feel guilty or that you are disrespecting them and the relationship if you seek advice or help. That is all part of their abusive game as well. Discretion and privacy in a relationship is one thing. But a true and good Dom/Domme will not forbid you to reach out to others in the community or otherwise.

Please, Dom, Dommes and subs.. Read this and learn….

I can only second that, please read it, think about how these aspects turned out in your relationship.
…and please spread the word!

So…screaming’s a free action, right? I can scream and maybe cry a little while I’m stabbing?

the party, upon being confronted by giant centipedes (via outofcontextdnd)

pervocracy:

Look at Fifty Shades Of Grey's knot.

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Now look at my knot.

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Now back at FSoG.  Now back at me.

This is the knot your knot could look like if you bothered to ask actual BDSM players, or hell, even their YouTube channels, before making a movie supposedly about BDSM.  I’m not a rope top and I did that one-handed.

I’m on a horse.

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The thing where they justify abuse by saying “it’s BDSM, of course it’s sick and wrong” is still a bigger problem though.

A thought experiment: Imagine how people might react if Taylor Swift released an album made up entirely of songs about wishing she could get back together with one of her exes.

We’d hear things like: “She can’t let go. She’s clingy. She’s irrational. She’s crazy.” Men would have a field day comparing her to their own “crazy” exes.

Yet when Robin Thicke released “Paula” – a plea for reconciliation with his ex-wife Paula Patton disguised as an LP — he was called incoherent, obsessed, heartfelt and, in particular, creepy.

But you didn’t hear men calling him “crazy” — even though he used it as the title of one of tracks.

No, “crazy” is typically held in reserve for women’s behavior. Men might be obsessed, driven, confused or upset. But we don’t get called “crazy” — at least not the way men reflexively label women as such.

“Crazy” is one of the five deadly words guys use to shame women into compliance. The others: Fat. Ugly. Slutty. Bitchy. They sum up the supposedly worst things a woman can be.

WHAT WE REALLY MEAN BY “CRAZY” IS: “SHE WAS UPSET, AND I DIDN’T WANT HER TO BE.”

“Crazy” is such a convenient word for men, perpetuating our sense of superiority. Men are logical; women are emotional. Emotion is the antithesis of logic. When women are too emotional, we say they are being irrational. Crazy. Wrong.

Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel.

Small wonder that abusers love to use this c-word. It’s a way of delegitimizing a woman’s authority over her own life.

Most men (#notallmen, #irony) aren’t abusers, but far too many of us reflexively call women crazy without thinking about it. We talk about how “crazy girl sex” is the best sex while we also warn men “don’t stick it in the crazy.” How I Met Your Mother warned us to watch out for “the crazy eyes” and how to process women on the “Crazy/Hot” scale. When we talk about why we broke up with our exes, we say, “She got crazy,” and our guy friends nod sagely, as if that explains everything.


Except what we’re really saying is: “She was upset, and I didn’t want her to be.”

Many men are socialized to be disconnected from our emotions — the only manly feelings we’re supposed to show are stoic silence or anger. We’re taught that to be emotional is to be feminine. As a result, we barely have a handle on our own emotions — meaning that we’re especially ill-equipped at dealing with someone else’s.

That’s where “crazy” comes in. It’s the all-purpose argument ender. Your girlfriend is upset that you didn’t call when you were going to be late? She’s being irrational. She wants you to spend time with her instead of out with the guys again? She’s being clingy. Your wife doesn’t like the long hours you’re spending with your attractive co-worker? She’s being oversensitive.

As soon as the “crazy” card is in play, women are put on the defensive. It derails the discussion from what she’s saying to how she’s saying it. We insist that someone can’t be emotional and rational at the same time, so she has to prove that she’s not being irrational. Anything she says to the contrary can just be used as evidence against her.

More often than not, I suspect, most men don’t realize what we’re saying when we call a woman crazy. Not only does it stigmatize people who have legitimate mental health issues, but it tells women that they don’t understand their own emotions, that their very real concerns and issues are secondary to men’s comfort. And it absolves men from having to take responsibility for how we make others feel.

In the professional world, we’ve had debates over labels like “bossy” and “brusque,” so often used to describe women, not men. In our interpersonal relationships and conversations, “crazy” is the adjective that needs to go.

Men really need to stop calling women crazy - Harris O’Malley (via hello-lilianab)

(Source: Washington Post)

Is it the 1st yet? I need Guardians of the Galaxy in my life like right the hell now.

I don’t know how I’m not hungover. CERTAINLY not complaining, but I feel like I should be hungover right now.

Maybe my body is giving me a break because shark week started in the middle of the night and it’s like “it’s cool man, you got enough on your plate today”

good body. very good. you get a cookie later.

I had a handful of friends over tonight and I drank and I actually got drunk and I pretty much NEVER get drunk in my own home so that’s kinda awesome YAY FOR VODKA MIXED WITH FRUIT DRINKS (my main was Diet V8 Splash berry blend, and then I switched to orange juice)

YAY FOR BEING HAPPY-DRUNK

also emotional drunk but that was brief and resolved in wonderful ways and i’mall good now

tumblr followers i love you guys

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Anonymous asked
There's something I've been curious about for a little while, if it's okay for me to ask. Where did the nickname 'Shinga' come from?

When I was about 12 years old I was spending a weekend at my grandparents’ place, bored as hell. Pretty much the only thing on TV was this documentary-style show about these people who were taking care of a lioness that they’d named “Shingalana”. I liked the named. Shortly after this we got a new cat RIGHT around the same time that my dad wanted to scan in some of my art and post it online with the suggestion that I pick an online nickname. I decided to name my cat Lana and me Shinga, so we matched. Lana unfortunately did not last very long (she ran away), but the nickname of Shinga stuck. So yeah… that name has a weird and largely boring origin but I’ve been Shinga now for 17 years… and I’ll always be Shinga :)

hunnidthousand:

I thought mpreg was like a type of audio/video format and I googled it and well I am wrong. 

gravityisahabit:

I just started listening to Welcome to Night Vale, and I just adore its paranormal nonchalance. Then this just happened on my hand.